Monday, 15 September 2014

I HEART INSTAGRAM

So last week I was tagged by the lovely Josie of Josie's Journal to do the 'I Heart Instagram' tag. Me and Instagram haven't been together long, but it is turining into quite the beautiful relationship...


So here it goes with the questions, I hope I don't bore you...

What's your Instagram handle?
I thought I would just keep it simple and use by blog name @fashionwelldone. With working for some fashion brands and blogs, I have other Instagram accounts that I help with, as well as more passwords to remember. So keeping it simple means I don't risk locking myself out.

How many accounts do you follow?
I'm still quite new to this Instagram thing so I only follow 206 accounts right now. So if you do have Instagram, please leave a link to it in the comments and I can stalk you, I mean follow you.

How many followers do you have?
I'm just a mere minnow in the Instagram world right now with 126 followers, but they are all so sweet to me, I wouldn't change them for 100,000 followers.

What are your favourite hashtags?
I don't have a dog of my own, so I have to make do with getting all misty eyed over pictures of other people's dogs, so #dogsofinstagram is a winning hashtag. I'm also a bit obsessed with knowing what other people are wearing so #wiwt #OOTD and #personalstyle are some of my other faves.

How often do you post?
Once a day at least, but since I still am a bit of a novice I don't know what I should be posting, any advice?

How often do you check your Instagram feed?
About 5 times a day, I don't want to miss anything - I may be a little bit nosy.

What is your favourite filter?
I quite like Mayfair, can hide a few imperfections with Mayfair - I actually resemble that house elf from the Harry Potter movies, but Mayfair makes it look like I have a working face.

Smartphone purist or rebel? 
I think I am a bit of a rebel, mainly because my smartphone is not that high end. I am due an upgrade, but EE make me angry with their pestering so I haven't got round to it.

Favourite 3 IG accounts?
I can't do that I love so many, but I am going to give a shout out to Paula from Thirteen Thoughts and Sophie from So Inspo, because they always leave super sweet comments.

I'm going to tag, the lovely Christina from Diaries of a Sunflower and my kindred spirit Keit from Beauty in Insanity.

Don't forget to leave me your Instagram links.

Gems x
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Thursday, 11 September 2014

THE JUMPSUIT OBSESSION CONTINUES

I haven't been this obsessed with anything since my childhood (well 13 year old) crush on Ash from Pokemon - yes Pokemon the cartoon. I've always had a thing for guys who are ambitious, dedicated and loyal and Ash was all of those things. I would watch every morning before leaving for school and I knew all the words to whatever song they played at the end. Pretty innocent of me considering what some of the girls at my school were already doing by then.

Jumpsuit, Boohoo - Similar Here.
Grey Flats, Primark - In Stores Now.
Name Necklace, Punky Pins - Same Here.

So this new obsession is jumpsuits. I can't get enough of them - their comfort and sartorial awesomeness, way out weights the toilet issues. This casual jumpsuit was a recent purchase in the Boohoo sale and I have barely had it off (and not because it got stuck over my rather large bum). The drawstring waist gives it a sport luxe feel and I can't wait to try it out with some sporty heels and my metallic clutch.






Thanks again for all your continued support about my opening up about mental illness. I don't think I could really face up to it if it wasn't for you guys.

OK I must be off because I've gotta catch 'em all!

Gems x
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Monday, 8 September 2014

MYTHICAL CREATURES

So I promised I would talk a little bit more about my experiences with mental illness and after reading the comments on my last post about being given the cold shoulder, I started thinking about the common myths surrounding depression and anxiety. The things people with mental illness and just normal people, believe to be true. Plus this leaf printed playsuit from H&M makes me feel like a mythical woodland creature, prancing between the trees ( I didn't actual do that I promise). I have to include a little bit of fashion of course...you're complements on my dress sense sustain me better than chips, well marginally.

Playsuit, H&M - Similar Here.
Biker Jacket, Matalan - Similar Here.
Shoes, Primark - In Stores Now.
Skinny Belt, New Look - In Stores Now.
So to the myths..
  • You're the only person to feel this way - Sorry, but your just not that special. You may feel like the only person in the world, but there are probably several people on your street experiencing something freakishly similar. Depression is so crazy common that it doesn't even make you stand out these days - if you want to be different why not wear a hat, no wait everyone does that now too...sorry!
  • You're making yourself ill - You're not doing it to youself, it is something that happens too you, thanks to a silly chemical imbalance in the brain. You can't help it, but you can learn to manage and deal with it, with medication and therapy, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy worked wonders for me. So the next time some chick tells you to cheer up and stop making yourself ill, punch her square in the boob; if it's a guy, I think you know where that punch should go.
  • You're a failure - Probably one of the worst things you can tell yourself, mostly because it is totally not true. If anyone makes you feel like you are a failure for being depressed or anxious then cut them from your life as they are toxic and a total jerk. You are having a hard time for sure, but your achievements, no matter how small, mean so much more as you have had to work so hard to get there.
  • Medication will turn you into a zombie - What a load of bloody nonsense, medication will not turn you into a numb, emotionless android. They will simply moderate your brain chemistry and help to take the edge off your depression and anxiety, allowing you to really deal with the problem at hand. As somone on two types of medication I can confirm that I have never walked jerkily around the streets looking for human brains to devour. It may take a few tries to get the medication right, but they can really help once a good match is found. 
  • You're a burdon on everyone - I will talk about guilt more in a future post, but it is so common for people with mental illness (or any other long term illness) to feel like they are a burdon to those around them. I have felt that way so often, especially when so many of my 'friends' couldn't be bothered to include me. Plus I would be lying if I said my family and Ryan hadn't made sacrafices for me, but I know they did so because they cared for me and wanted to help however they could. One day I hope to pay them back.
This guy has been my rock, I started really living when I met him.

Now more pretty pictures, because look at how 'normal' life can be even with mental illness, I can sit on big stones and stand next to trees with no real difficulty...






Remember, you are never alone when there is ice cream, ooh and cake, ooh and those little cracker things are salt and vinegar flavours :) If anyone wants to talk about their struggles and experiences, just send me an email.

Oh and can you give me some tips for taking pictures outside?

Gems x
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Friday, 5 September 2014

FOR THE GLAMOROUS

I have to start by saying a huge thank you for all the messages of support on my last blog post - it really was quite overwhelming to know that so many lovely girls are there for me, like the friends I thought I had werent. But, it did make me sad that so many wonderful people had experienced something similar their lives, and if it brought up painful memories, I really am sorry. If any of you need anyone to rant to, I am only an email away.

In the future, I do plan to talk about all my battles with mental illness and all that comes with it in the hopes that both myself and others can stop feeling so ashamed and isolated. But, today I thought maybe I would just keep it light and show lots of pretty pictures of my fabulous new Glamorous jumpsuit that I got for a steal on eBay and it was brand new with the tags.

Strappy Jumpsuit, Glamorous - Same Here.
Floral Biker Jacket, QED London @ TKMaxx - Same Here.
Block Heels, Primark - In Stores Now.
Gold Skinny Belt, H&M - Similar Here.
Mirror Bar Necklace, Punky Pins - Same Here.
When it arrived I was nervous that I wasn't going to get it over my ample bum - I did buy one from H&M without trying it on and I pretty much got stuck in it, I did fear I was going to be forced to wear it forever. That jumpsuit has since met the sewing machine and been transformed into trousers and a crop top, once I was pryed out of it of course.

But with this Glamorous beauty, I need not have worried, it fit beautifully and I felt like I belonged at Studio 54 whilst wearing it. Just give me an afro wig, some novelty sunnies and the goldfish platforms and I'm good to go!






Jumpsuits are definitely by clothing of choice for the moment, what items of clothing are you crushing on right now?

Gems x
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Tuesday, 2 September 2014

THE COLD SHOULDER

Sometimes you just have to accept the hand you have been dealt...

Cold Shoulder Dress, Primark - In Stores Now
Waist Belt, New Look - Similar Here.
I've been thinking about loneliness recently, mainly because my blogger chums have started to make me feel a lot more connected to the world, even if I don't get to see them in person. As many of you with similar issues will understand, when you have problems with mental illness, you may see your friends disappear - it could be a misguided fear of it catching, being no sure how to act around you, or they just don't understand why you don't make an effort any more. Whatever the reason, you feel like you have been given the cold shoulder and it only serves to make you feel worse about your self.

At first I blamed myself for being such a useless person, then I blamed them for abandoning me when I needed them the most, but now I have just accepted that it happened and moved on. Even if these friendships could be repaired, I would never trust them enough to be the real me again, so the best thing is to let them go and wish them well for the future.



I would be lying if I said it hadn't had a lasting effect on me - I find it very difficult to make friends now and I find myself being very shy and reserved in social situations, much to my own frustration. I have very few true friends now, but I'm so lucky that I could have the best friend I could hope for in my boyfriend Ryan - I have never known someone so caring and patient, the guy is a legend. Plus, I have met some wonderful girls blogging that are sweet and supportive and I'm sure they know who they are.

So, it seems like my recently purchased cold shoulder tunic dress from Primark (just £8 by the way) is the perfect choice to go with this post, because sometimes being given the cold shoulder can be good for you in the long run.





Stick On Nails, Primark - In Stores Now.

Has blogging been a bit of a lifeline for you, when things have been tough?

Gems x

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Saturday, 30 August 2014

I'M SO PLAYFUL

Thanks for all the well wishes for me to recover from this stupid cold - this mega jerk seems to want to linger around, and give me a hideous red nose, which could light the way far better than Rudolph's shiny snozz. When I haven't absolutely had to do work, I have been hiding under a duvet being totally pathetic - seriously don't feel sorry for me, I am the worst patient ever. A whiney, snotty, moany mess - isn't my boyfriend lucky, I really did look like the swamp thing yesterday, I don't know how he managed to kiss me, maybe he scrubbed his face with sandpaper afterwards, whilst weeping at the awfulness of it all.

Playsuit, New Look - Similar Here
Silver and White Block Heels, Primark - In Stores Now.
Being under the weather is always my worst time for anxiety, so I did have a little bit of a wobble the other day. But, as I tell other people you have to look at each new day as a totally new chapter, only you can write it, so start with a positive begining and who knows what will happen. I'm happy to report, I put that little panic attack behind me and I'm moving on.




Anyway, onto the fashion part - this playsuit from New Look, is a fairly new wardrobe addition and was worn to the opening of a new bar, which was designed by my boyfriend's best friend and business partner, so we were lucky enough to jump the queue. I have been obsessed with jumpsuits and playsuits recently and have added a number to my collection since this one. I feel so fabulous, until I have to go to the loo and you realise you have to be a bit of a contortionist to get the zip down, then again when it needs to go back up.




The print of this playsuit is gorgeous, with pops of neon against China blues, and the skort detail is so cute, whilst protecting my modesty. I had to team it with my new £12 bargain shoes from Primark and my mint green kimono from H&M, just to keep the chills away on the walk home. Finish off with my favourite necklace adn some neon pink stick on nails from Primark, which are amazing by the way, and I was good to go.



So, how do you guys feel about jumpsuits and playsuits? Do you love them like I do, or does having to completely undress when you go to the toilet put you off?

Gems x

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Wednesday, 27 August 2014

A LITTLE BIT OF INSIGHT

Eurgh, right now I have the most hideous cold, which makes me just want to curl up in bed with a crappy movie and bottomless cup of tea and just have a nice little sleep until it goes away. But being a freelance worker means no paid holidays for me so I have to sit at my bitch of a computer, booo! Eat a d**k stupid cold virus.

Skater Dress, Insight - Similar Here.
Sunglasses, H&M - Similar Here.

Anyway, at least I have been really lucky on eBay and in charity shops recently. A big triumph was the famous Motel Rocks Lilah jumpsuit, which I got for just £5, I can't wait until that arrives. Another triumph was this gorgeous printed dress, from surf style brand Insight that I picked up for just a few pounds in a charity shop.

I may be the most unlikely surfer girl - I can barely stand up on dry land, never mind on a surfboard  on the ocean - but I do love this cute little dress. The vibrant colours, the bold print, the skater style, it all screams GEMMA!!!




I also want to say thank you for all the kind words about my previous post on the issue of confidence - it's not always easy for some of us to be confident, but keep taking those little steps with me, I'm always better with company.

Gems x

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